I believe in soul mates. Though I imagine we all have several in this lifetime. That one who fulfills our deepest call for love and union is actually a many. Within us is the eternal seed for growth and expansion in Love and we move through life planting this seed everywhere we go. Those out there who are in tune with our offering at any given moment will feel like a soul mate - a safe harbor for our seed, a fertile ground in and through which we can grow our Love. Even more, a soul mate is not outside of us to find. On the contrary, the mate of our soul is an expression of who we are right now in this very moment. We are the incubator for that which will appear before us in the perfect and right time. Rumi says it best,
Your task is not to seek for love,
but merely to seek and find
all the barriers within yourself
that you have built against it.
So, you ask, what can we do right now to be the soul mate that we wish to create? The simple answer is be who you are, your authentic self. The more you can be exactly as you are without pretension or self deprecation, the closer you come to being at one with Soul and hence, it's mate. In order for your soul to find it's home, you must allow it to flourish and shine minus embellishment and falsehood. Once home, your soul quickly flows into oneness with the great Love it came here to express and share. Again Rumi dances with truth in words-
The minute I heard the first love story,
I started to look for you
not knowing how blind I was.
Lovers don't finally meet somewhere,
they're in each other all along.
To prepare your mind, body and spirit to fully appreciate and honor your soul mate, who may be your current partner or a future love, you have to clear all the excess that only serves to dim your light. Fancy this, every person whom you meet, everyone whose path you cross is actually your soul mate to some degree. That is why we must do unto every other as we would have done unto us. Our love must go out in every instant, in each interaction, all the time. Think of the wide-eyed wonder, the awe of a newborn. Let this vision guide you as you relate with soul love to each and every one of your fellow beings on this planet we call Earth.